I guess this really is not a question. But I read a question you answered and it was a similar question I had.<\/p>\n
I met a woman who has an almost-four-year-old son. She said she was divorced, but as time went along I found out that she really wasn’t yet. This upset me, based on the fact that I had kissed this girl. I realized that I was starting a relationship with a married woman and that I had indeed committed adultery. So after a time of prayer, I knew what I needed to do. I basically took the advice given, which was to tell her to get her things in order before I would even consider anything else. The question I guess is: even if she does this and grows in faith, should I give her a chance and continue to pray and trust in the Lord, or is it better to just completely walk away and say that I must move on?<\/p>\n
Thank you.<\/p>\n\t
I would like you to think about this from another direction. If nothing else changed (beyond her divorce occurring), would this be the type of woman you want at your side for the rest of your life? People don’t change unless they decide to change. Characteristics you observe now usually remain. If she is willing to lie and hide things to get what she wants, likely that character will remain with her.<\/p>\n
What you also didn’t mention is: Why did she leave her husband? Unless he was cheating on her, she doesn’t have the right to a second marriage according to Jesus. “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery<\/em>” (Matthew 19:9). Just because someone wants to leave their marriage, it doesn’t mean God releases them from their covenant.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: I guess this really is not a question. But I read a question you answered and it was a similar question I had. I met a woman who has an almost-four-year-old son. She said she was divorced, but as time went along I found out that she really wasn’t yet. This upset me, based…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[66,149,167],"class_list":["post-40849","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-adultery","tag-dating","tag-divorce"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":24236,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/should-i-marry-a-woman-who-had-a-habit-of-dating-married-men\/","url_meta":{"origin":40849,"position":0},"title":"Should I marry a woman who had a habit of dating married men?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"July 30, 2020","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Is it OK to marry a lady who has a past of dating married men? The majority of the men she has dated were married men. It also bothers me that she keeps her past a secret. Answer: I don't know what kind of things you think she is\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":29499,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/we-just-found-out-that-my-wifes-first-marriage-was-never-dissolved-what-do-we-do\/","url_meta":{"origin":40849,"position":1},"title":"We just found out that my wife’s first marriage was never dissolved. What do we do?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"October 12, 2011","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I have just recently married a beautiful godly woman who totally fills my heart with love every day that we share together in holy matrimony.\u00a0 But recently we have found out that she is still married to another.\u00a0 Several years ago my wife was to be wed to another\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":53584,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/is-someone-married-if-they-give-their-id-to-use-on-a-marriage-license\/","url_meta":{"origin":40849,"position":2},"title":"Is someone married if they give their ID to use on a marriage license?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"July 1, 2018","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I have a question. My best friend and I had a huge argument, and I have to know if I'm doing the correct thing.\u00a0 Before my friend found God, he was living with a woman, so when he found God he wanted to do things right and marry her.\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":2806,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/was-the-samaritan-woman-really-married-that-many-times\/","url_meta":{"origin":40849,"position":3},"title":"Was the Samaritan woman really married that many times?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"March 8, 2019","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: In John 4, I get confused with the issue of marriage. Christ wanted her to call her husband until she said she had none. Then Christ said she had had five husbands, except that her present man was not her husband. Was Christ trying to prove that she had\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":81514,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/if-we-get-married-will-the-sin-stop\/","url_meta":{"origin":40849,"position":4},"title":"If we get married, will the sin stop?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"December 11, 2024","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Do you really answer questions? I have something bothering me. Can you help me with it? I met a woman who has been divorced for a year. I intend to marry her, but the fact is that we have had sexual relations before marriage, and we are living together\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":27764,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/i-committed-adultery-divorced-my-husband-and-married-another-man-what-should-i-do\/","url_meta":{"origin":40849,"position":5},"title":"I committed adultery, divorced my husband, and married another man. What should I do?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"June 14, 2011","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I married in my twenties. We remained married for almost twenty years. I was the one who committed adultery and decided to leave my husband and pursue a life alone. However, I met a man, fell in love, and I divorced my husband and remarried. I am a born\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40849","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=40849"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40849\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=40849"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=40849"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=40849"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}