Respect<\/a>.<\/p>\nInstead of having complaint sessions, try talking about what you admire most in your husbands and strategize how to best encourage husbands to bring out the best in them. A wife should aim to encourage her husband with positive reasons to be a better man, if for no other reason than she knows she will have a better life as a result. “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones<\/em>” (Proverbs 12:4).<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Question: I have been asked to do a drama for the ladies! I have been researching your web site. I have read\u00a0your notes on Solomon,\u00a0the glue in a marriage, and lots of other things. 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