I married and discovered my husband was unable to perform his marital duties. He knew but did not disclose it. Further, he said he had a job but was laid off months prior. I made every attempt to live by the law. When I discovered he still wasn’t working, had emptied the 401k, and failed to report this to the IRS, I filed for a legal separation to protect my home and children’s college accounts. He then insisted on a divorce. All my attempts to dissuade him failed. Am I an adulterer if I remarry?<\/p>\n\t
The only allowances for remarriage are the death of a spouse (Romans 7:2-3) or divorce because a spouse is committing fornication (Matthew 19:9). Since neither of these is true, you would not be allowed to marry another man. The passage that applies in this situation is: “But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife<\/em>” (I Corinthians 7:10-11).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: I married and discovered my husband was unable to perform his marital duties. He knew but did not disclose it. Further, he said he had a job but was laid off months prior. I made every attempt to live by the law. 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