I’m right now in a situation in which my boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me. From the beginning of our relationship, I didn’t want to force him but I wanted this relationship to end up in a marriage. From a religious point of view and I’m from an area where marriage is important before living with a man.<\/p>\n
He has personal issues. His ex-girlfriend left him and he loves her so much.<\/p>\n
We haven’t done did anything wrong such as sex. He is also from a Christian family. I wanted him to move on with me but he is afraid of marriage. He fears that I might change like her ex-girlfriend. He forced me to not waste his time and moved on, but I love him. I can’t. He sometimes hurts me so much. I kept on praying that God might change his heart. I don’t want to force him to marry me.<\/p>\n\t
God made you, me, and everyone in the world with free will. We have the right to make our choices — good or bad. Asking God to force someone to go against their own decision is something God is not going to do. After all, God wants everyone saved (II Peter 3:9) but God is not going to force people to make the right choice.<\/p>\n
Your boyfriend was hurt by his previous girlfriend. While he believes she changed, what I suspect is that she basically remained the same. He only became aware of her flaws after he fell in love with her. As a result, he is having a hard time accepting that she is not the person he imagined her to be. He hasn’t let go of her, which is why he refuses to consider marrying you.<\/p>\n
You also have a hard time accepting people for who they are. He has been clear that he doesn’t want to marry you. While you believe it to be a bad choice, it is his choice. You can’t force someone into marriage. Even if you could, it would not be a happy marriage. Two people have to willingly decide to marry and enter the marriage covenant voluntarily.<\/p>\n
While you believe that you would make a good wife for this man, he isn’t prepared to be a good husband. Perhaps he might change his mind, but you can’t wait for that to happen. It is time to move on and continue your search for a good husband. If he changes his mind before you find another man, then perhaps you can consider him again. But for right now, you must consider that avenue closed.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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