Hello,
I am a girl in my thirties who had held on to my beliefs and Christian values. I had a boyfriend who was so into sex. But I told him to relax so we can know each other very well. But to my surprise we had sex, and I don’t know how to move on. I feel too guilty about it. I can’t look into my mother’s eyes as she is a pastor. I can’t go to church. I feel God will punish me for that. <\/p>\n
Please, I need help. Should I continue with this relationship or end it? Can God ever forgive me for this wrong doing?<\/p>\n\t
It seems hardly surprising at all. You chose to date a man who made it clear that he wanted to have sex. Clearly, he has had sex with other women in the past, but you deceived yourself into thinking you would be different. That he accomplished his objective is not surprising at all.<\/p>\n
I must assume that he doesn’t hold Christian values and sees nothing wrong with what he has talked you into doing. If that is the case, then you can expect him to continue to press you to have sex, after all, you did it before so in his mind doing it again doesn’t change anything. Therefore, continuing to date this man is a statement that you are willing to repeat your sin.<\/p>\n
Why you think your particular sin is unforgivable is something that doesn’t make sense. God has stated repeatedly that He is willing to forgive anyone who changes their behavior and returns to Him with their whole heart (Ezekiel 18:21-23; II Peter 3:9).<\/p>\n
However, returning to a church that is not following the Bible isn’t going to help matters. The fact that your mother preaches, in violation of I Corinthians 14:34-35 and I Timothy 2:11-12, tells me that you had been attending a church that doesn’t put God’s laws first. I would encourage you to find a church that actually upholds God’s standards.<\/p>\n\t
Thank you for your kind advice.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Question: Hello, I am a girl in my thirties who had held on to my beliefs and Christian values. I had a boyfriend who was so into sex. But I told him to relax so we can know each other very well. But to my surprise we had sex, and I don’t know how to…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[1572],"class_list":["post-36926","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-fornication"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":45214,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/my-girlfriend-had-sex-with-her-former-boyfriend-and-i-dont-know-what-to-do\/","url_meta":{"origin":36926,"position":0},"title":"My girlfriend had sex with her former boyfriend and I don’t know what to do","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"May 25, 2015","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: We are in a relationship for more than two years. She went back to her home during college vacation. While there she planned to go and meet her ex-boyfriend, who is also a school friend, to remember the old days. She went to his house to meet him, and\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":43430,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/should-i-turn-myself-in-because-i-had-sex-with-a-minor\/","url_meta":{"origin":36926,"position":1},"title":"Should I turn myself in because I had sex with a minor?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"September 3, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: First of all let me start by saying, your site is amazing. Your answers remain as biblical as possible and I do appreciate that. I read another question that someone else had that was very similar to the situation I am going through now, and reading your response really\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":34556,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/i-feel-so-guilty-because-we-broke-down-and-had-sex-should-i-leave-the-man-i-love\/","url_meta":{"origin":36926,"position":2},"title":"I feel so guilty because we broke down and had sex. Should I leave the man I love","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"August 30, 2012","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: My boyfriend and I are strong believers. We started a relationship less than six months ago and put a strong principle that there would be no sex. In the last two weeks, the principle got broken when we got carried away in love and had sex. Right now I\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":25678,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/why-do-i-feel-used-by-the-guys-i-had-sex-with\/","url_meta":{"origin":36926,"position":3},"title":"Why do I feel used by the guys I had sex with?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"January 3, 2011","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Hello. I am glad I found this web site. Now I know that prayer is the answer to this question, and I have already prayed many times, but I need to post this. I am in my late twenties. I was a virgin until three years ago. I had\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":69388,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/should-i-marry-the-man-ive-already-had-sex-with\/","url_meta":{"origin":36926,"position":4},"title":"Should I marry the man I’ve already had sex with?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"August 19, 2024","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Hello there! I am emailing because I've been in turmoil this past month. Recently, I've felt that the Lord has strengthened my conviction to follow him. I plan on hopefully being baptized by the end of the year. My church is very Protestant; they believe in purity, and I've\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":29311,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/how-do-i-stop-having-sex-with-a-guy-im-not-married-to\/","url_meta":{"origin":36926,"position":5},"title":"How do I stop having sex with a guy I’m not married to?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"September 26, 2011","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I am a young girl in college. At the beginning of this year, I met a guy and we both fell in love with each other. We started dating, and after a few months, the guy started showing interest in sex by asking questions like when do you want\u2026","rel":"","context":"In "Answer"","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36926","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=36926"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36926\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=36926"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=36926"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=36926"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}