I have suffered for 35 years as a submissive wife because I fear the Lord. My husband has left the running of the family to me. Food, education, clothing, homemaking, sickness, etc.\u00a0 He gives me no money but expects to be given money. He has many women in his life including minors. He is now busy bringing together the children he has had outside our marriage.\u00a0 And much more.\u00a0 My prayers are now dull for I am tired. Can I divorce him?\u00a0 Our four children are all grown up and living on their own.<\/p>\n\t
I’m puzzled why you’ve waited 35 years to make this decision. It leaves me feeling that something has been left out.<\/p>\n
Jesus stated, “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery<\/em>” (Matthew 19:9). Your note indicates that your husband has been having sex outside of marriage for a long while and it appears that he has no inclination to change. All the other things you mentioned are irritations, not the real issue. Given this situation, God does allow you to divorce your husband if that is what you feel you must do. You would have the right to remarry if you so chose after the divorce. Your husband would not have the right to remarry.<\/p>\n\t Thank you so much, sir. I have waited this long because I had hope that one day my husband would change. And due to cultural issues, I wanted my children to be together as they grow up. I thank you for your answer. Whenever I thought of divorce, I felt guilty. I felt God may not approve of it. And often friends reminded me of my marriage vows “for better for worse.” We are both in retirement and each having our own pension. I will go ahead. I do not need the hustle of alimony, after all, I have looked after myself for long.<\/p>\n God bless you. I must add that I came across your website by chance when I was playing with my computer. I feel it is God who led me to it. Once again thank you so much.<\/p>\n\t I just explain God’s word. I’m not the rule-maker.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: I have suffered for 35 years as a submissive wife because I fear the Lord. My husband has left the running of the family to me. Food, education, clothing, homemaking, sickness, etc.\u00a0 He gives me no money but expects to be given money. He has many women in his life including minors. 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