I have been struggling with a particular problem and I’m am trying my best to change, but I really do not know if it’s a sin or not. I am not racist or prejudice, I love everyone and I have friends of all races. I plan on having kids one day and for some reason, I feel like it would make me feel uncomfortable if I had a daughter that liked dating African Americans. I am not racist toward them and two of my best friends are black, and my favorite college teacher is black, my favorite athlete and my favorite comedian are both blacks. Now if it were to happen and I had a daughter that wanted to marry one, I would not be against it. I will accept it and embrace it, but is it wrong for me to wish that she dated a white guy or someone from my own ethnicity?\u00a0 Would it be sinful if I was glad that my daughter broke up with her boyfriend because he was black, and I wanted her to date someone else? I wouldn’t force her either, but I would recommend something else.<\/p>\n\t
I wonder, would you be opposed to your imagined future daughter dating a redhead? Would you feel uncomfortable if she was with a guy with straight hair instead of curly? The reason for asking is to point out a problem.<\/p>\n
There are no races. “And He has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth<\/em>” (Acts 17:26). We all descend from Adam and Eve. For that matter, we all descend from Noah. You might need 80 greats to get back to a common ancestor, but there is one back there somewhere.<\/p>\n The real problem is that you would be making decisions based on external factors which are totally unimportant in a good marriage. “Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment<\/em>” (John 7:24). The amount of tint in a person’s skin tells you nothing about his personality, his abilities, or his character, just as the color of his hair, the quantity of hair, or the type of hair tells you anything about him either. What you need to practice more is seeing people as the spirits they are and not merely looking at the containers that house their souls.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: I have been struggling with a particular problem and I’m am trying my best to change, but I really do not know if it’s a sin or not. I am not racist or prejudice, I love everyone and I have friends of all races. 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