This is hard for me to come out and ask this, and I need this answer because I think my salvation is very important.<\/p>\n
I’m young and I mean 21. I have not been married and met a man. We have been together for about two years. He loves me very much, and I love him as well. We plan to marry, but there is a problem, he has been divorced and it was because he committed adultery by sleeping with some other woman while he was married. I know he is very apologetic for his sins. We have fornicated and he will be my first husband, but I will be his second wife.<\/p>\n
Does this mean I am doomed to hell? I love and will confess and prove that in the house of God. I want God to love me, even if I marry my husband-to-be. Please help me.<\/p>\n\t
“But why do you call Me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do the things which I say?<\/em>” (Luke 6:46).<\/p>\n
“If you love Me, keep My commandments<\/em>” (John 14:15).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
There is a conflict in what you are stating. You claim to be concerned about going to heaven. You say you love the Lord. You want God to love you. But in all this, you do as you please.<\/p>\n
You have been having sex with a man you are not married to and you think God will overlook these sins? “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge<\/em>” (Hebrews 13:4). You are about to marry a man who did not keep his covenant and who has been involved in sexual sins with you, yet you think that he has changed?<\/p>\n
The fact remains that Jesus said, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery<\/em>” (Luke 16:18). This man is still obligated to his original vows because he broke them. His only option is to remain unmarried or return to his former wife (I Corinthians 7:10-11). If you marry him, you both will continue to be guilty of adultery.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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