How can a person stop loving their girlfriend or boyfriend? I know the feelings are still there deep down, but how do they force themselves to not love you anymore?<\/p>\n\t
I don’t understand the question. Given that Jesus said we are to love our neighbor (Matthew 12:31) and love our enemies (Matthew 5:44), love is not a concept that you turn on or off against a particular person. It is how you behave toward a person (I Corinthians 13:4-8). While we get emotional about a person we love, love isn’t really an emotion.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Question: How can a person stop loving their girlfriend or boyfriend? I know the feelings are still there deep down, but how do they force themselves to not love you anymore? Answer: I don’t understand the question. Given that Jesus said we are to love our neighbor (Matthew 12:31) and love our enemies (Matthew 5:44),…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[65],"class_list":["post-33747","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-love"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":43680,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/i-love-my-girlfriend-but-she-wont-stop-talking-to-her-prior-boyfriend-who-is-also-her-cousin\/","url_meta":{"origin":33747,"position":0},"title":"I love my girlfriend, but she won’t stop talking to her prior boyfriend who is also her cousin","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"October 20, 2014","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: My girlfriend and I are in a strong relationship for about an year or so. 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