My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. We love each other very much. This is not really a question, but a declaration. I’m leaving him to move into my own place or back with my mother because I truly want to serve the Lord and flee from fornication. He wants to marry me and I want to marry him, but we are not financially ready or spiritually ready. I’m trying to make an effort to really serve the Lord with my whole heart and my body. I know my body is for the Lord and not for fornication. My boyfriend says he loves the Lord, but if he doesn’t understand the importance of abstaining from fornication. How can he really want to serve the Lord? He doesn’t want me to leave. I tried leaving before, but he ranted and cried so much that I just stayed. But this time I’m really leaving if he is not serious about serving the Lord as we should. Please pray for me and him. I’m 27 and he is 30. I can’t go on like this anymore, I cannot engage in fornication while knowing that my soul could be required at any given time. I just can’t live with the thought of dying in my sin and being completely separated from the Lord forever. I love him so much, but I love the Lord more. Please pray that I stay firm in this decision.<\/p>\n
Thanks.<\/p>\n\t
I’m glad you want to do what is right, but your arguments against getting married are false ones. You’ve been living together for two years. There is no additional cost of living just because you are married. There is a spiritual difference because you two would be doing what is right instead of what is wrong. If you both really want to get married, just go down to the courthouse and get married instead of making this a point of contention. “But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion<\/em>” (I Corinthians 7:8-9).<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. We love each other very much. This is not really a question, but a declaration. 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