I have been seeking God more than I have before. My life for God has definitely strengthened. However, I have sought God about the situation of my boyfriend. To be honest it seems as if I have to keep my boyfriend in the Word. He sure wants to marry, loves me, and has no problem with wining and dining. However, that doesn’t feed my soul. I need more of God, and I tell him this. He seems to be moving forward, but very slowly. I don’t know what to do. Please help if you can.<\/p>\n
I prayed to God, and I asked God for a God-fearing husband — one who’s on the same spiritual level as me. Last but not least I’m finding out that he is still smoking cigarettes here and there and likes the taste of cold beer every now and then. Help. Sometimes I wonder why me. Why can’t he just be serious about Christ-like me or maybe I should say on the same page? Mind you everything else seems perfectly fine. But if God isn’t all up and through our relationship, then I’m not happy.<\/p>\n\t
You can’t make a person into someone he is not. You can encourage him to change, but if he is reluctant to change, then you need to face the fact of who he is. Right now you are more in love with who he might be.<\/p>\n
I’m glad you want a man who will encourage you to be a better Christian. But if he isn’t going to fulfill that role, then you need to stop wasting both his time and yours. “A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished<\/em>” (Proverbs 22:3).<\/p>\n\t Thank you so much, I still don’t really know where to start. When I think about it, I get confused and it seems as if I lose my joy, so I try not to think about it too much and just trust that God will make a way. That’s the only way that I really know how to explain my feelings right now. However, I do know that I will not marry into cigarettes and alcohol. Thank you so much though again. I’m trying to stay positive and to keep my joy that the enemy seems to try to take away.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: I have been seeking God more than I have before. My life for God has definitely strengthened. However, I have sought God about the situation of my boyfriend. 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