{"id":31769,"date":"2012-02-14T21:01:00","date_gmt":"2012-02-15T03:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=31769"},"modified":"2021-02-07T21:04:11","modified_gmt":"2021-02-08T03:04:11","slug":"i-cant-go-on-in-this-marriage-like-this-anymore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/i-cant-go-on-in-this-marriage-like-this-anymore\/","title":{"rendered":"I can&#8217;t go on in this marriage like this anymore!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t<h2>Question:<\/h2>\n<p>Hi<\/p>\n<p>Please help because I cannot do it anymore.\u00a0 My husband told me almost a year ago he doesn&#8217;t love me anymore.\u00a0 We have been married for over five years.\u00a0 I kept on believing, praying, etc. that this will change but still no response from him that he loves me.\u00a0 I am going mad.\u00a0 I cannot be with him and feel so empty anymore.\u00a0 I am scared every day of my life that when I get home he will have left me.\u00a0 He said on several occasions he wants a divorce.\u00a0 He blames me and my children (not his) for everything.\u00a0 Sometimes he treats me nice, but he never says that he loves me.\u00a0 I cannot do this anymore.\u00a0 What should I do?\u00a0 Where are God&#8217;s promises?\u00a0 How can I ask for all His promises if I am a sinner? How? How? How? I cannot go on like this anymore!<\/p>\n\t<h2>Answer:<\/h2>\n<p>You&#8217;ve told me almost nothing. Your husband is still with you after a year of problems, which hints that he is making some effort at keeping the marriage together and that there isn&#8217;t another woman involved. You blame him for the problems. You blame God for the problems. You see things as an offense against yourself. I&#8217;m left wondering if your husband is right that you are causing problems in this marriage.<\/p>\n<p>There are no promises of a happy marriage or a happy life here on earth. God does tell us how to make life better in a great number of ways, but people sin. If you and your husband aren&#8217;t following God&#8217;s teachings, then of course things will be less than ideal. Good marriages don&#8217;t just happen, they result from two people putting effort into keeping a marriage functional.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: Hi Please help because I cannot do it anymore.\u00a0 My husband told me almost a year ago he doesn&#8217;t love me anymore.\u00a0 We have been married for over five years.\u00a0 I kept on believing, praying, etc. that this will change but still no response from him that he loves me.\u00a0 I am going mad.\u00a0&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[64],"class_list":["post-31769","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-marriage"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":28354,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/am-i-doing-the-right-thing-waiting-for-my-husband-to-come-back\/","url_meta":{"origin":31769,"position":0},"title":"Am I doing the right thing waiting for my husband to come back?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"August 8, 2011","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Am I right to stand for my marriage to be restored? 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