When I met my wife we were both going to similar churches. About a year after we met, both of us stop going to church. We got married soon after we stop going to church. When then had a child. My wife decided on ending the marriage claiming that she never loved me and she made a huge mistake by marrying me. I did everything in trying to reconcile with her to no avail. I realized that since I departed from the Lord my life has changed for the worst, so I decided to rededicate my life to the Lord. My wife says that she is no longer a Christian and has departed completely from the biblical principles. I told her that I’m not going to sign any divorce papers based on the fact that I don’t believe in it. She said she is going to file anyway. My question is when she gets her divorce I’m I free to remarry?<\/p>\n
P.S. My church doesn’t believe in remarriage.<\/p>\n\t
There is only one reason that the Lord gives which allows for remarriage and that is when a marriage ends because of fornication on the part of the other spouse (Matthew 19:9). That is not the case here, so there is no remarriage for either of you.<\/p>\n\t
So because of my wife’s change of heart toward me, I should stay bound? I did everything possible to save my marriage, everything. In today’s society men are the ones who normally end their marriages and here is a young man who is trying to live for God but because of his wife’s selfish ways, he must stay bound?<\/p>\n\t
I realize the requirements are hard. Even the disciples were surprised when Jesus stated this: “His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” But He said to them, “All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given: For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother’s womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it” <\/em>” (Matthew 19:10-12).<\/p>\n What is being ignored is that you freely entered a covenant with your wife. No one forced you. A covenant is a lifetime commitment that requires a party to uphold the terms even if the other party fails. “Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife<\/em>” (I Corinthians 7:10-11). I hope that your wife changes her mind before it is eternally too late. And I’m sorry about the circumstances your wife’s foolishness left you in.<\/p>\n\t Based on what you are saying, I should remain single for the rest of my life. God saw that I did everything humanly possible to stick to my covenant, but my wife has made up her mind to move on. I’m a young man who wants to live for the Lord. What should I do? Please tell me.<\/p>\n\t Follow what the Lord commands in His Word. I’m sorry you made a bad choice in a life companion.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: When I met my wife we were both going to similar churches. About a year after we met, both of us stop going to church. We got married soon after we stop going to church. When then had a child. 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