{"id":28864,"date":"2011-09-08T21:35:00","date_gmt":"2011-09-09T02:35:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=28864"},"modified":"2020-12-21T21:38:25","modified_gmt":"2020-12-22T03:38:25","slug":"your-congregation-should-get-rid-of-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/your-congregation-should-get-rid-of-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Your congregation should get rid of you"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t<h2>Question:<\/h2>\n<p>I just found your site and was blown away at the answers that were given to the various people.\u00a0 I don&#8217;t know who you are that has decided to partake in the marriage advice department but I feel this site is shocking.\u00a0 The inaccuracies in the advice given to these poor people astound me and I would hope your congregation would get rid of such a mean-spirited minister.\u00a0 As I saw in the answer section where people said they would pray for you, I feel I&#8217;m going to need to do the same.\u00a0 The greatest commandment was to walk in love. I don&#8217;t see that anywhere in your writing style or advice.<\/p>\n\t<h2>Answer:<\/h2>\n<p>Let&#8217;s put your own note to your test. Let me see:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Unsolicited advice from someone who gives no credentials.<\/li>\n<li>Advice not backed up with citations of a knowledgeable source.<\/li>\n<li>Inaccurate charges, since no evidence is given.<\/li>\n<li>Mean-spirited, no signs of love.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>It looks like your note fails your own tests. There is no reference to any particular error, just a general claim. There is no attempt at showing where Scriptures might have been misapplied. All I see is is an unhappy person, mad that advice is given that she doesn&#8217;t agree with, and is unable to counter.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;<em>Blessed are you when men hate you, and when they exclude you, and revile you, and cast out your name as evil, for the Son of Man&#8217;s sake. Rejoice in that day and leap for joy! For indeed your reward is great in heaven, for in like manner their fathers did to the prophets<\/em>&#8221; (Luke 6:22-23).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Have a nice day because I&#8217;m certainly enjoying mine.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: I just found your site and was blown away at the answers that were given to the various people.\u00a0 I don&#8217;t know who you are that has decided to partake in the marriage advice department but I feel this site is shocking.\u00a0 The inaccuracies in the advice given to these poor people astound me&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[127],"class_list":["post-28864","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-about-this-site"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":30282,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/thank-you-so-much-for-your-help-and-advice\/","url_meta":{"origin":28864,"position":0},"title":"Thank you so much for your help and advice","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"November 21, 2011","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Thank you so much for your help and advice.\u00a0 I know I haven't met you in person, but I feel much trust in you for the help you've provided to me.\u00a0 So much praise for your site.\u00a0 With the Internet being the way it is, it's hard to find\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":45854,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/should-we-only-teach-people-who-will-join-the-local-congregation\/","url_meta":{"origin":28864,"position":1},"title":"Should we only teach people who will join the local congregation?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"September 3, 2015","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Hello, I am writing for some advice.\u00a0 I live in a city and worship just outside the city in a small town.\u00a0 I have a passion for sharing the Gospel with the lost.\u00a0 While at a congregation in the city, I was blessed to share with people who often\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":67995,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/any-advice-for-a-single-christian\/","url_meta":{"origin":28864,"position":2},"title":"Any advice for a single Christian?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"May 9, 2024","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Hello, I came across the \"Hope for the Future\" article, and it resonated with my current situation. 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