{"id":27595,"date":"2011-05-27T20:32:00","date_gmt":"2011-05-28T01:32:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=27595"},"modified":"2020-11-14T20:41:43","modified_gmt":"2020-11-15T02:41:43","slug":"how-do-i-move-on-after-a-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/how-do-i-move-on-after-a-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"How do I move on after a divorce?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t<h2>Question:<\/h2>\n<p>I have written before regarding my divorce from my husband of many years. I am still a mess. I can&#8217;t seem to shake this man who cheated, lied, and treated me badly in the end. He has since moved on with the women he was cheating with. I don&#8217;t think they have married but are certainly living together. Can you help me find a scripture to hold on to at night when all the thoughts of how he left me, traumatize me? I have been trying to tell myself, trust God, He has not brought me to this lonely place without a husband to remain here, but it has been several years since my divorce, and I still lay awake and suffer at night. I still miss him, even though he did me wrong. Do you think there is any hope of God bringing us back together, am I just foolish for even thinking of this? I want to pull myself together and trust in God, but I also want the pain, hurt, and desire for him to go away.<\/p>\n<p>He has since gone to jail for DUI and is now writing my kids talking about God and how he is sober now.\u00a0 Should I just leave him be or would God want me to reach out to him and let him know how I feel?<\/p>\n<p>P.S. I wanted you to know that I got my answer to the question from your site:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/it-is-what-it-is\/\">It is what it is<\/a>. This is what I need to focus on and move on the best I can with my life.\u00a0 Thank you so much for being so faithful and not afraid to speak God&#8217;s word and tell folks &#8220;the truth.&#8221;<\/p>\n\t<h2>Answer:<\/h2>\n<p>It isn&#8217;t often that someone finds a good answer before I get a chance to respond. I&#8217;m glad you found one that is appropriate. The loneliness is going to continue as long as you dwell on it. Sadly, he made some really bad decisions. I don&#8217;t know if he&#8217;ll change his life around or not. I do know that it is easy to be sober when you have no access to alcohol. We can hope and pray that it sticks, but I&#8217;ve seen many do good in prison slip back into old habits when they are out. You need to take a wait and see attitude with this.<\/p>\n<p>Meanwhile, you need to move on with life. If he manages to work out his problems and comes back to you, then you can decide. But if life takes you in a different direction, you&#8217;ve got to live life and serve the Lord while you can. &#8220;<em>Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going<\/em>&#8221; (Ecclesiastes 9:10). So get back to enjoying life as it comes.<\/p>\n\t<h2>Response:<\/h2>\n<p>I am so grateful to you. Just a baby in Christ trying to figure out how to live my life righteously. Have a good day and thanks so much.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: I have written before regarding my divorce from my husband of many years. I am still a mess. I can&#8217;t seem to shake this man who cheated, lied, and treated me badly in the end. He has since moved on with the women he was cheating with. I don&#8217;t think they have married but&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[167],"class_list":["post-27595","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-divorce"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":37340,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/do-i-keep-going-even-though-my-heart-isnt-in-it\/","url_meta":{"origin":27595,"position":0},"title":"Do I keep going even though my heart isn&#8217;t in it?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"February 23, 2013","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I found your website just a few weeks ago, and I can't stop reading it. 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