{"id":27442,"date":"2011-05-16T20:54:00","date_gmt":"2011-05-17T01:54:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=27442"},"modified":"2020-11-12T20:57:30","modified_gmt":"2020-11-13T02:57:30","slug":"wouldnt-it-have-been-a-sin-for-tamar-and-amnon-to-marry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/wouldnt-it-have-been-a-sin-for-tamar-and-amnon-to-marry\/","title":{"rendered":"Wouldn&#8217;t it have been a sin for Tamar and Amnon to marry?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t<h2>Question:<\/h2>\n<p>Was it not a sin for Tamar and Amnon to get married because they were from the same father, even though they had sex?<\/p>\n\t<h2>Answer:<\/h2>\n<p>A difficulty arises when multiple laws are violated at the same time and penalties for these different laws vary.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Amnon lusted after an unmarried woman, which violated the teaching, &#8220;<em>The righteousness of the upright will deliver them, but the unfaithful will be caught by their lust<\/em>&#8221; (Proverbs 11:6).<\/li>\n<li>Amnon had sex with his sister, which violated, &#8220;<em>The nakedness of your sister, the daughter of your father, or the daughter of your mother, whether born at home or elsewhere, their nakedness you shall not uncover<\/em>&#8221; (Leviticus 18:9). The consequence of this law is &#8220;<em>If a man takes his sister, his father&#8217;s daughter or his mother&#8217;s daughter, and sees her nakedness and she sees his nakedness, it is a wicked thing. And they shall be cut off in the sight of their people. He has uncovered his sister&#8217;s nakedness. He shall bear his guilt<\/em>&#8221; Leviticus 20:17).<\/li>\n<li>Amnon raped an unmarried woman, which violated, &#8220;<em>If a man finds a young woman who is a virgin, who is not betrothed, and he seizes her and lies with her, and they are found out, then the man who lay with her shall give to the young woman&#8217;s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife because he has humbled her; he shall not be permitted to divorce her all his days<\/em>&#8221; (Deuteronomy 22:28-29). This passage is broader than just rape, &#8220;seized&#8221; carries the idea of enticing in Hebrew, but it can be applied to force sex as well.<\/li>\n<li>Amnon refused to marry Tamar, which was the consequence of having sex with her, and thus broke Deuteronomy 22:28-29 in a different way. It wasn&#8217;t his decision under the Law of Moses.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>So applying all the laws being broken:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Amnon would be forced to pay 50 shekels for Tamar&#8217;s dowry.<\/li>\n<li>If David allowed (Exodus 22:16-17), he would have to marry Tamar with no option for divorce.<\/li>\n<li>Amnon would no longer be considered an Israelite, regardless of whether he was forced to marry Tamar or not.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>One of the sad points of this story is that these laws were not upheld. This is why Absalom thought he was justified to murder his brother.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: Was it not a sin for Tamar and Amnon to get married because they were from the same father, even though they had sex? Answer: A difficulty arises when multiple laws are violated at the same time and penalties for these different laws vary. Amnon lusted after an unmarried woman, which violated the teaching,&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[983,534,163,984],"class_list":["post-27442","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-amnon","tag-incest","tag-rape","tag-tamar"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":33125,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/are-there-any-examples-of-a-woman-being-forced-into-a-marriage-that-she-objected-to\/","url_meta":{"origin":27442,"position":0},"title":"Are there any examples of a woman being forced into a marriage that she objected to?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"June 6, 2012","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: Are there any Old Testament examples where the future wife to be actually objected to the wedding but was forced into it?\u00a0 Just curious because I understand they were treated as property, but just wondering if there examples of a marriage where the wife objected beforehand.\u00a0 I know there\u2026","rel":"","context":"In &quot;Answer&quot;","block_context":{"text":"Answer","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/category\/answer\/"},"img":{"alt_text":"","src":"","width":0,"height":0},"classes":[]},{"id":11795,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/god-has-revealed-to-me-the-names-of-sexual-demons\/","url_meta":{"origin":27442,"position":1},"title":"God has revealed to me the names of sexual demons","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"August 25, 2007","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: In the past couple of weeks, God has been revealing to me the names of sexual demons: Incubi and Succubi. 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