\n“Let me guess, you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling?”
\n“Yes.”
\n“What do you suggest?”
\n“Love her.”
\n“Love her? That’s the problem. I don’t love her. The feeling just isn’t there.”
\n“Then\u2026love her.”
\n“Maybe you didn’t hear what I said. I said, the\u2026feeling\u2026is\u2026not\u2026there!”
\n“Okay. Got it. But that’s all the more reason to\u2026love her\u2026”
\n“So, how do you love when you don’t\u2026love?”<\/blockquote>\n
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\nGood question. The answer is simple. Love is a verb. The “feeling” is the fruit that love bears. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice for her. Listen to her. Appreciate her. Go the extra mile for her. Affirm her. Hold her. Talk with her.\n
Do that and \u2026 guess what? The fruit of feeling will return. Sadly, we get it backward. We want the feeling to produce the doing when actually it is the doing that produces the feeling. So, “do.” It’s really that simple.<\/p>\n
“Love is patient,
\nlove is kind
\nand is not jealous;
\nlove does not brag
\nand is not arrogant,
\ndoes not act unbecomingly;
\nit does not seek its own,
\nis not provoked,
\ndoes not take into account a wrong suffered,
\ndoes not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
\nbears all things,
\nbelieves all things,
\nhopes all things,
\nendures all things.<\/em>\nLove never fails” (I Corinthians 13:4-8).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
by Wilson Adams “I don’t love my wife like I used to\u2026” “Let me guess, you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling?” “Yes.” “What do you suggest?” “Love her.” “Love her? That’s the problem. I don’t love her. The feeling just isn’t there.” “Then\u2026love her.” “Maybe you didn’t hear what I said. I said, the\u2026feeling\u2026is\u2026not\u2026there!” “Okay. Got…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[27],"tags":[65],"class_list":["post-26306","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-article","tag-love"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":49646,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/am-i-lying-if-i-tell-someone-sorry-or-i-love-you-when-i-dont-feel-it\/","url_meta":{"origin":26306,"position":0},"title":"Am I lying if I tell someone “sorry” or “I love you” when I don’t feel it?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"December 25, 2016","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I can be very detail-oriented. 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