{"id":25839,"date":"2011-01-29T20:38:00","date_gmt":"2011-01-30T02:38:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/?p=25839"},"modified":"2020-09-08T20:42:53","modified_gmt":"2020-09-09T01:42:53","slug":"why-cant-one-teach-someone-of-the-opposite-gender","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/why-cant-one-teach-someone-of-the-opposite-gender\/","title":{"rendered":"Why can&#8217;t one teach someone of the opposite gender?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t<h2>Question:<\/h2>\n<p>Where did the thought process of men teaching men and women teaching women come into play? Did Jesus ever discern a difference? Shouldn\u2019t the need be met regardless of the person&#8217;s gender? I have never understood it when other Christians tell others that they shouldn\u2019t study with someone of the opposite sex (understand you are not alone in their bedroom). I would appreciate your advice on this as well. Is it OK to have friends of the opposite sex in a dating relationship or even a marriage?\u00a0 As long as one is practicing self-control nothing will come of the matter.<\/p>\n\t<h2>Answer:<\/h2>\n<p>There is nothing wrong with a man teaching a woman. If it were, then it would have been wrong for Paul to teach Lydia or Jesus the woman at the well. However, it doesn&#8217;t mean we ignore the potential for problems. In both cases that I cited, the teaching was done in a public area where someone else might come by at any moment. In the case of Paul, he and Lydia were not alone together. There others with them.<\/p>\n<p>When Paul wanted to have the gift gathered by the Gentile churches sent to Judea, he insisted that others actually carry the money. It wasn&#8217;t that Paul wasn&#8217;t trustworthy, lacked self-control, or didn&#8217;t trust himself. &#8220;<em>Avoiding this: that anyone should blame us in this lavish gift which is administered by us &#8212; providing honorable things, not only in the sight of the Lord, but also in the sight of men<\/em>&#8221; (II Corinthians 8:20-21). It is an important principle.<\/p>\n<p>When teaching another person, you don&#8217;t want that teaching time to be an occasion for temptation or for malicious rumors. Hence, my general rule has always been that when talking to someone of the opposite sex, I always have someone with me or the discussion takes place in a public area. In this way, I protect both of our reputations and &#8220;<em>give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully<\/em>&#8221; (I Timothy 5:14).<\/p>\n<p>The same principle applies to friendships. I expect people to have both male and female friends. Yet, because sin is in the world, I urge people to take precautions. It is the concept of honor and integrity that is so often overlooked. It is because a person is your friend that you take extra precautions regarding their reputation.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Question: Where did the thought process of men teaching men and women teaching women come into play? Did Jesus ever discern a difference? Shouldn\u2019t the need be met regardless of the person&#8217;s gender? I have never understood it when other Christians tell others that they shouldn\u2019t study with someone of the opposite sex (understand you&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[353,551,451],"class_list":["post-25839","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-influence","tag-reputation","tag-teaching"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":9114,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/does-the-command-for-a-woman-not-to-teach-only-apply-to-the-assembly\/","url_meta":{"origin":25839,"position":0},"title":"Does the command for a woman not to teach only apply to the assembly?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"March 24, 2007","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I have some questions regarding I Timothy 2:11-12. 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