Is anal or oral sex between a married couple a sin?<\/a>” You say there is no abuse, but you also say you are hurting. Your husband is not behaving properly and needs help. Insist that he get it. You don’t have to be harmed for his sexual pleasure.<\/p>\n\tQuestion:<\/h2>\n
Well, it is the truth and there is a lot more I didn’t put in the original question. I’m not divorcing him because I don’t think it is right, but it is true. Not all men are good and not all women are wrong because they pick the wrong mate. I never thought he would have acted like this. I thought I was marrying a good, righteous man and he has a very scary idea of what sex is.<\/p>\n\t
Answer:<\/h2>\n
The choice of whether to go or stay is your own. I want you to understand that God is not forcing women to stay in an abusive relationship. Just understand that if you chose to leave because of his sins, it doesn’t give you the right to marry another man. “Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife<\/em>” (I Corinthians 7:10-11). I would strongly suggest that he get counseling regarding his behavior because, as you describe things, he won’t make it to heaven.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Question: I don’t know what to do. I am a member of the church and I know that I have to be submissive to my husband, but he does some things that aren’t very nice. He only wants oral and anal sex. 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