In my younger days, I met this woman and got her pregnant after a prolonged friendship. We were not ready for marriage and we went our separate ways. Later, both of us married to other people. I followed up on our daughter and even got her a job where she met her future husband. Somehow, she ignores me completely and wants nothing to do with me. How do I handle this?<\/p>\n
I believe God has plans for all of us and her being born out of wedlock was planned. She is who she is because of me.<\/p>\n
Please help.<\/p>\n\t
Just because you contributed the sperm, it doesn’t make you a father. It does sound as if you took responsibility for your sin and made sure she grew up to be a responsible adult. As an adult, she makes her own decisions. I don’t know why she doesn’t want a relationship with you, but it is her choice.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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