How to Become a Christian<\/a>.<\/p>\n\tQuestion:<\/h2>\n
What am I suppose to do now? Without sex can the couple be completely joined by God? They have never had sex and never made any vows or agreement to marry each other. It was just the parents who did everything on their behalf.<\/p>\n\t
Answer:<\/h2>\n
A marriage is made by a covenant. “She is your companion and your wife by covenant<\/em>” (Malachi 2:14). Until marriage vows are exchanged by the couple, there is no marriage. Sex does not create a marriage.<\/p>\nAgain, it is up to you to decide whether you want to ask her to marry you and it is up to her to decide if she would rather run off to marry you against her parents’ wishes or not. If the two of you decide to get married, realize that in doing so you will be making her family your enemies. She will especially have a difficult time and it would require strong character on her part to commit herself to you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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