sermon on sex before marriage<\/a>\u00a0really enlightened me regarding today’s relationship failures. I have been divorced for several years and been with the same guy off and on who will not commit to me. I have been through a lot in these past years and had a ground-breaking moment just over a month ago. I cried and prayed to God to help me. I have put Christ back in my life and never want to go back to those dark days again!<\/p>\nI have my moments still though, but guess all Christians do. I have always wondered if sex before marriage with someone you really loved would somehow not be a sin. I see how much pain it causes when you do not follow God’s rules! They were put there to have us lead a happy, fulfilling, and peaceful life on earth. It just makes me sad because I am so scared to remarry again due to being in an abusive relationship of control. I really do not want to be alone and not have that intimacy and love. Thank you for enlightening me!<\/p>\n\t
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I’m glad the sermon helped you understand that God’s ways have always been about showing people what works best for everyone. I’m sorry you had to learn this lesson the hard way.<\/p>\n
Assuming you have a right to remarry (Matthew 19:9), there does not need to be any fear of marriage. Take your time to get to know someone for who they are — not how they physically perform in bed. If you can’t get along before marriage, then keep looking. Don’t try to force a bad relationship to work. When you find the right person, you won’t have any problems committing yourself to him and he to you. Then the marriage and the accompanying pleasures of sex will be worth the wait.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Question: Your\u00a0sermon on sex before marriage\u00a0really enlightened me regarding today’s relationship failures. I have been divorced for several years and been with the same guy off and on who will not commit to me. I have been through a lot in these past years and had a ground-breaking moment just over a month ago. 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