How do I get girls to have sex with me?<\/p>\n\t
“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge<\/i>” (Hebrews 13:4).<\/p>\n
“But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion<\/i>” (I Corinthians 7:8-9).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
First, you must find a girl to marry since intercourse is only permissible under a marriage covenant. This immediately rules out “girls” since a man is only allowed to marry one wife. “And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate<\/i>” (Mattew 19:4-6).<\/p>\n
See the articles “Waiting for the Proper Time<\/a>” and “Why Sex Outside of Marriage is Wrong<\/a>” for a discussion about why sex should not take place prior to marriage.<\/p>\n
Second, you must change your attitude toward girls, or you’ll never find someone willing to commit her life to you. You are thinking of only gratifying your sexual desires in the quickest way possible. Talk about a selfish and shallow life! Sure, sex is deeply pleasurable, but it is only a small part of life. “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself<\/i>” (Philippians 2:3). Face it, who would want to marry a person who only thinks about his own pleasure? Even if you did manage to marry someone, sex with a selfish person is miserable. Even back in the days of Moses, the law stated, “When a man has taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war or be charged with any business; he shall be free at home one year, and bring happiness to his wife whom he has taken<\/i>” (Deuteronomy 24:5). Moses is talking about all aspects of joy, including sexual enjoyment. The old rule was that when a man married, he could not be sent to war or sent off on a business trip for one year. His duty for his first year was to see that his wife was romantically and sexually fulfilled. You are probably wondering, “What about the man’s happiness?” If you just stop and think for a moment, you will realize that by making his wife happy, the man cannot help but enjoy life as well. But such is a major change in outlook from your current view.<\/p>\n
See the chapter “What is Marriage<\/a>” in the study “Preparation for a Lifetime<\/a>” for more information.<\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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