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A happy home is being with a wise choice of a marriage partner. We, therefore, submit the following questions as a guide for our young people as they seek out their companion for life.<\/p>\nA happy home is being with a wise choice of a marriage partner. We, therefore, submit the following questions as a guide for our young people as they seek out their companion for life.<\/p>\n
1.\u00a0Is this person eligible for marriage?<\/strong>\u00a0There are those who have a right to marry according to the laws of our state, but who do not have a right to marry according to the law of God. God’s authority is supreme, and the Christian must abide by His law whenever there is a conflict between His law and governmental law.<\/p>\n God’s law is that only those who are divorced for the cause of fornication have a right to remarry. “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery, and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery<\/em>” (Matthew 19:9). If one’s marriage partner is guilty of marital infidelity, he can put that partner away for that cause, and marry another. If the divorce is for any other cause, he is ineligible for marriage.<\/p>\n 2.\u00a0Is this person a Christian?<\/strong> Many problems can arise when a Christian is married to a non-Christian, especially when it is the wife who is a Christian. Before any young lady marries a non-Christian, she should consider the following problems which often face the Christian in a mixed marriage.<\/p>\n a.\u00a0Problems in attending services.<\/strong>\u00a0She should ask herself, “What will I do if my husband some Lord’s day drives away in the car, leaving me with no transportation to the services?” “What will I do if my husband announces that his company is moving us to some city where no church of the Lord meets?” Many women have faced these problems.<\/p>\n b.\u00a0Problems in giving.<\/strong>\u00a0The young lady loves the Lord and His work, and wants to give liberally in support of it. Her husband, however, does not share her convictions. He feels that a dollar is plenty to give.<\/p>\n c.\u00a0Problems in training children.<\/strong>\u00a0Some have succeeded in bringing up their children to be Christians without the help of their companions. Eunice succeeded with Timothy. But the influence of a father is great, and many are the women who have not been able to overcome this influence to see their children become Christians.<\/p>\n d.\u00a0Problems in overcoming the influence of one’s companion.<\/strong>\u00a0Marrying with the hope of reforming one’s companion is a dangerous thing. Often the companion is lifted to a higher standard, but seldom to the standard of a Christian. Instead, as the non-Christian’s standards are raised, the Christian’s standards are lowered, so that the two meet somewhere in between. The young lady should realize that the man she marries will be the greatest influence of an earthly nature on her life, and she should ask herself, “Will this man help me to go to heaven?”<\/p>\n e.\u00a0Emotional problems.<\/strong>\u00a0Recently a godly woman, having just received word of her husband’s death in an automobile accident, cried, “Why couldn’t it have been me or one of the children, for my husband was not ready to die?”<\/p>\n Is the reader thinking she will convert her husband after marriage? She may be able to do so, but statistics show that her chances are not very good. The risk is too great. The only safe course is for Christians to marry Christians.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n 3.\u00a0Does this person possess a strength of character?<\/strong> Many boys and girls seem to want to do right but are just too easily influenced by their associates or by the circumstances which surround them. Such a weakness of character does not make for a good marriage partner. If one wants a happy home, he should choose a companion who is dependable, whose word can be trusted, who has the strength to do right, even when all around him are doing wrong.<\/p>\n After all, if that young man or woman lies to his parents or employer, he will someday lie to you. If he is excessively jealous and possessive during courtship, he will manifest the same weaknesses after marriage. If he is quick-tempered — or flirty — or a “show-off” — or a spendthrift — or a “tightwad” — now, he will be after marriage. One cannot marry a moral weakling and expect a happy home.<\/p>\n Yes, there will be faults and eccentricities that must be accepted and tolerated in any happy relationship between two people. But there are certain conditions that are practically intolerable, and we hope that this article will help some young person avoid such.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" by Bill Hall A happy home is being with a wise choice of a marriage partner. We, therefore, submit the following questions as a guide for our young people as they seek out their companion for life. 1.\u00a0Is this person eligible for marriage?\u00a0There are those who have a right to marry according to the laws…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[27],"tags":[149,64],"class_list":["post-19144","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-article","tag-dating","tag-marriage"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":13180,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/what-is-the-status-of-a-person-who-married-a-person-who-had-no-right-to-marry-but-later-divorced-that-person\/","url_meta":{"origin":19144,"position":0},"title":"What is the status of a person who married a person who had no right to marry, but later divorced that person?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"November 2, 2007","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: If someone has been scripturally divorced, but her previous spouse was not eligible for marriage because of a previous marriage. 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