I recently found some inappropriate emails to my husband (of 15 years) from another woman.\u00a0 He admitted to me that he has been with four other women starting about 5 years ago.\u00a0 He says there was no intercourse only sexual touching.\u00a0 He touched their genitals and they touched his leading to arousal but no intercourse.\u00a0 He has been with one of the women over a dozen times and with the other three women several times each.\u00a0 He claims since there was no intercourse it’s really “no big deal” and I would not have spiritual grounds for a divorce.\u00a0 I would like to know your thoughts.<\/p>\n\t
The most disturbing thought is that your husband thinks fooling around with four other women is “no big deal” solely because intercourse hasn’t taken place. Such a person doesn’t understand the seriousness of sin and doesn’t believe he has sinned. Regardless of what you decide to do about your marriage, his soul is in jeopardy. Given such an expressed attitude, I see no way to trust his statements about what has gone on.<\/p>\n
I would strongly urge that he gets counseling immediately. Whether you divorce him is your decision, it isn’t one I can make for you. Nor can I tell you with so little to go on whether fornication has taken place, that too is something you’ll have to make up your mind about.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Question: I recently found some inappropriate emails to my husband (of 15 years) from another woman.\u00a0 He admitted to me that he has been with four other women starting about 5 years ago.\u00a0 He says there was no intercourse only sexual touching.\u00a0 He touched their genitals and they touched his leading to arousal but no…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[20],"tags":[167,203],"class_list":["post-18928","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-answer","tag-divorce","tag-sexual-touching"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":16947,"url":"https:\/\/www.lavistachurchofchrist.org\/cms\/is-phone-sex-grounds-for-a-divorce\/","url_meta":{"origin":18928,"position":0},"title":"Is phone sex grounds for a divorce?","author":"Jeffrey Hamilton","date":"December 4, 2008","format":false,"excerpt":"Question: I\u00a0have recently divorced my husband for sexual immorality and abuse.\u00a0 He watched pornography, read Playboy magazines, is a nudist around other nude men and women, and also paid several times to have phone sex with\u00a0real women.\u00a0These actions have been going on for about ten years or more. 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