I’ve been married for 23 years and I’m no longer in love with my husband and don’t desire to have sex with him. Because of this, he physically kicked me out of the bedroom a year ago and I’ve been sleeping on the couch.\u00a0 We don’t even talk to one another. He also allowed my 18-year-old son with a drug history to have a lock on his bedroom door and come in all different hours of the night (morning).\u00a0 My son has also been physically abusive toward me and I will admit that I’ve provoked him to it.\u00a0 My spouse and I, of course, are unequally yoked and I can’t stand it anymore. I don’t understand why God would want for us to stay together. Things are just getting worse. \u00a0I want out so bad.\u00a0 I want to move on with my life.\u00a0 What are your thoughts?<\/p>\n\t
I don’t know why you are asking. You don’t care about your family. You don’t care about what God said about how you should treat other people. So what more could I add? By the way, from a Christian perspective, love is not something you do because you feel like it. Love is commanded and you are living in direct violation of the command “that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children<\/em>” (Titus 2:4).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Question: I’ve been married for 23 years and I’m no longer in love with my husband and don’t desire to have sex with him. Because of this, he physically kicked me out of the bedroom a year ago and I’ve been sleeping on the couch.\u00a0 We don’t even talk to one another. 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