Disciplining Children<\/a>” for a list. No one method is the best in every circumstance, thus a parent needs to look at each situation and determine what will most effectively guide this child in this situation to become a godly young man or woman.<\/p>\nSpanking is not a cure-all. It can be an effective tool in certain situations. What I have advised parents to do in the past is that when a child gets to their teenage years they should follow the example God used with David (I Chronicles 21:11-14); that is, to give the one in the wrong their choice of punishments. One should be over with quick, but painful — either spiritually or emotionally. The other should be longer, but not as severe. If spanking is one of those options and the teenager happens to choose that option, then it is not difficult to administer as the teenager knows he deserves it and has chosen that method as his punishment.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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