Why am I suffering like this?

Question: I’m in my early twenties. I’m suffering from arthritis for several years. I took many treatments, but I’m not able to find a cure. I’m a Christian. One more thing is that I was in a relationship with a girl. I loved her like anything. I have touched her several times and I have…

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How far can we go in touching each other?

Question: I have been in a relationship with this girl for quite a few months, and well it’s hard for her to show her emotions toward me through words; she is a feeling person, and I’m one too, but not as much. When we’re alone, we just hug tightly, play with each other’s hair and…

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What is included in porneia?

Question: Hi! I have been studying sex and the Bible. What I am really confused about is that the Bible does not mention oral sex or mutual masturbation. It only mentions anal sex and vaginal sex. Thus, how are oral sex and mutual masturbation a sin? How is it sexual intercourse? In Greek, porneia means…

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I know what I ought to do, but I keep slipping

Question: Hello, I just recently stumbled upon your questions and answers on your website and I have found them to be very biblically based, direct, and insightful. I have a few questions that I would like to pose to you. My fiance and I have been dating from high school and through college and have…

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How do I ask for forgiveness after sinning so terribly?

Question: I’m not sure how to fix what I’ve done – or if it is fixable at all. I gave my boyfriend a hand-job a few weeks ago, and I’ve felt guilty ever since then. I told him that I don’t want to do it again because I realized that I had committed fornication, and…

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Is giving a client a handjob as part of a massage a sin?

Question: I am a male massage therapist. I want to know if it is a sin to give a full body massage that includes massaging the penis and masturbating the client for full relaxation. Answer: Is this not just one aspect of homosexuality? But homosexuality is condemned in the Scriptures: “Do you not know that…

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Is it wrong to love a non-Christian?

Question: I am 20 years old, and I have a boyfriend. We both really love each other. Although he is not a Christian, I can’t leave him. Is it wrong to love a non-Christian? We both sometimes end up having dry sex. He says it’s not a sin because we truly love each other. I…

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Is “dry humping” considered fornication?

Question: Is “dry humping” considered fornication? Does it count as sex before marriage? Answer: Dry humping is slang for rubbing or bumping the genitals against someone or something in order to gain sexual stimulation. It isn’t fornication, but fornication isn’t the only sexual sin that can be committed. Paul warned, “It is good for a…

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Is it possible to step back after you think you are going too far?

Question: I’ve been reading this site and you give such meaningful advice to people, so I wanted to ask a question of my own: Is it possible to take a leap backward after you feel like you and your boyfriend have gone too far physically? We haven’t had any sexual contact, but I’m afraid that…

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Red, yellow, or green light?

Question: I love your site. I sent the link to my girlfriend. We are not romantically involved; we just only touch the upper part of our bodies, and we keep our clothes on. I asked the pastor where I go to church and he told me that it is a good question, but if she…

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How long should an engagement last?

Question: First, I want to thank you for a beautiful, wonderful site. I’m a young Christian, growing in the Lord. I have a girlfriend. We love each other and I desire to marry young, as soon as possible. We’ve been dating for two months now, but we have known each other for three years. I…

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Is it a sin to let another man touch me during the night?

Question: I let another man touch me in the night time. I do not know what to do. Answer: The question is too vague for me to answer well. By “touch,” I’m assuming he touched your genitals in some way, but I don’t know if you mean purposely or accidentally. By “let,” I don’t know…

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My husband claims he been seeing other women where sexual touching was involved but no intercourse. He thinks it is no big deal. Do I have grounds for a divorce?

Question: I recently found some inappropriate emails to my husband (of 15 years) from another woman.  He admitted to me that he has been with four other women starting about 5 years ago.  He says there was no intercourse only sexual touching.  He touched their genitals and they touched his leading to arousal but no…

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If my boyfriend and I touched each other’s private areas, does that mean we aren’t virgins? When we were younger, we pretended to get married. It felt real. Does that mean we are married?

Question: I’ve read a couple of responses that you have given to other people and I find them very helpful. This site is just the site that I’ve been looking for to help me with my situation. I have a couple of questions and I was wondering if you could help me out. I’m presently engaged…

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What types of touching are forbidden?

Question: I was just wondering, in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship what is considered “too far?” I’m referring to touching breasts, genital touching, oral sex, and the like. Is touching OK if all clothing is still on? Is seeing one’s undergarments a sin? For me, personally, all forms of sex are sex and are forbidden, but touching…

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Is a handjob a sin if you love her and it doesn’t lead to sex?

Question: Is a handjob a sin if you love her and it most definitely does not lead to sex? Answer: A “hand job” is slang for mutual masturbation; using the hand to stimulate the genitals. Saying that it does not lead to sex is a misnomer. It would be more accurate to state that in…

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Is kissing and fondling my boyfriend fornication?

Question: My boyfriend and I indulge in kissing and fondling only. Could this be fornication? Answer: The Bible states that sexual touching is not right prior to marriage. “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman” (I Corinthians 7:1). The reason is…

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Is seeing or touching private areas a sin?

Question: I went to your website and wanted to know a few things that I’m too embarrassed to ask anyone else about. I was wondering if the following were considered sins. So since you are a Bible site, I figured you’d know. Please be specific and everything. Is it a sin to show my boyfriend…

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Am I no longer a virgin if my boyfriend touched certain areas?

Question: Please, I need your help. I have never had sex. I am a proud 22-year-old virgin and I plan to stay that way until I am married. See the problem is I have a boyfriend now and, well, he likes to touch certain areas. I just want to know is it possible that he…

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