This teaching on Song of Songs chapter 4 is amazing!

Question: This teaching on the Song of Songs chapter 4 is amazing! My husband and I have been married for six years and are going through some challenges sexually. Where can I find more teachings broken down just like this one but on other subjects? Answer: The entire website contains information on a wide variety of topics,…

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Doctors Push for Teenage Girls to Use Birth Control Devices

Source: Lindsey Tanner, “Teenage Girls Should Get IUDs or Hormonal Implants for Birth Control, Says American College of OBGYNs,” CNSNews.com, 20 September 2012 Logic has not been the strong point among liberal policymakers for decades. It seems that whenever it is found that people are ignoring moral common sense the outcry is for society to give…

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Are Bondage/Discipline/Sadism/Masochism practices moral?

Question: My query pertains to the practice of “Bondage and Discipline”, “Dominance and Submission”, “Sadism and Masochism”, which collectively make up the acronym “BDSM”. Specifically, I am curious whether or not the Bible has anything to say on the morality of “Master/Slave (Dominant/Submissive)” relationships? Quite frequently, elements of pain are involved in these types of…

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What are all the types of sexual sins?

Question: What are all the types of sexual sins? Answer: “Truly, this only I have found: That God made man upright, But they have sought out many schemes” (Ecclesiastes 7:29). One of the problems with coming up with lists of possible sins is that men are too inventive in coming up with new ways to…

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Why do you have so many questions pertaining to sex on your church website?

Question: Why do you have so many questions pertaining to sex on your church website?  It is very inappropriate and perhaps you are forgetting the Bible verse that states there are certain things you shall not discuss in public because they are so shameful. Answer: “For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor…

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Is sex sinful when you are separated?

Question: I’ve looked over all the answers in the divorce section and haven’t been able to find an answer to my question. My husband and I are currently separated because he is going through a midlife crisis of sorts. He is unhappy and unfulfilled and is searching for something to fill his void. I believe…

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Can someone there talk to my son?

Question: I am a single mom with a 14-year-old son who is starting to become curious about sex. I caught him masturbating, which was awkward for both of us, to say the least.  I decided this was a perfect opportunity to have “the talk” with him, but he doesn’t want to talk with mom about…

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Counterfeit Sexuality: Sexuality as Reduced to Animal Impulse

by Ethan R. Longhenry Few topics prove as sensitive and yet as controversial as sexuality. The topic generates a lot of interest; sadly, few conversations regarding sexuality prove very profitable. Most people understand their sexuality according to the terms of their culture and the world; few challenge the perspective and the narrative they are told regarding…

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Should sex be expected when you are separated?

Question: Hi, and God bless you. Over two years ago my husband cheated and committed adultery with a married woman. After I found out, he was very mean about it and repeatedly humiliated me by saying that he loved her, and he never loved me. That all he wanted was to be with her. We…

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Is a marriage only bound after sex?

Question: I had a question I was hoping you could help me with. Often the debate is focused on the major problem area when it comes to the marriage, divorce, and remarriage debate, which is the divorce and remarriage. But there doesn’t seem to be a large pool of information on the marriage side. What…

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Can I divorce my husband because he refuses to be intimate with me?

Question: I am quite torn as to what to do.  My first husband and I divorced because he was very abusive and repeatedly unfaithful.  My second marriage is proving to be a nightmare as well. He is cold, cruel, and emotionally abusive.  He has not slept in the same bed with me in two years…

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We need encouragement to stay sexually pure

Question: My society frowns at early marriage and yet pretends not to notice the prevalence of premarital sex. I am 29, with a fiancee, and a Christian. I know the pressure, but God has been helpful. If I am allowed, I will marry, but we have to wait. Please, we need encouragement to stay sexually…

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My husband and I live apart. Should I still have sex with him?

Question: Hello, I am concern about what can happen to me spiritually if I have sex with my husband who has committed adultery a number of times. He was once a Christian sold out for God and then, over time, he started not to care about being in right-standing with God as he should. We…

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Is the use of sex toys sinful?

Question: Are sexual toys, or other things to excite sex sinful? For example, if a woman isn’t being pleased by her spouse, could she use sex toys to provide her the pleasure she desires (and vice versa for the husband)? What about sex toys being used by singles? Answer: I can’t think of any passage…

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Should married couples abstain from sex before partaking of the Lord’s Supper?

Question: Can married couples have sexual intercourse before Lord’s Supper? Answer: Upon what passage do you base this conclusion? What I suspect has happened is that someone is trying to blend Old Testament laws with the Law of Christ. The Law of Moses had requirements about not being unclean when approaching God in worship. Those…

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Can I have sex with my ex-husband before our reconciliation?

Question: My husband divorced me, but not for biblical reasons. We are working on restoration. Neither of us has had an adulterous relationship. My question is can we have a sexual relationship before remarrying each other through the court? Answer: “Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is…

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How can I help my boyfriend with his sexual desires?

Question: I’m 25 years old and a Christian. I am in my first relationship as a Christian. My boyfriend is a backslider. We had sex once. I know it was wrong. I repented and I believe God has forgiven me. I am not going to do it again until we are married. I have downloaded…

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Doesn’t sex create a marriage?

Question: Hello, it’s me, the same girl who had sent you a message before asking about sex without marriage. I know God’s laws, and I know he made them in order to keep us safe and happy. The thing is, the person and I have already done it, we’ve had sex. Now Jesus said that when…

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Can a married couple talk dirty during sex?

Question: Hi, I have read through a lot of your Answered Questions and wanted to throw one out at you. Do you think it’s improper for a married Christian couple to “talk dirty” during sex, using words and language they would ordinarily not use in daily conversation? (If no one else is around and the…

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What does the Bible say about infertility?

Question: I am a Christian and want to know what verse should I read to encourage me about infertility. Answer: The inability to have children has long been a problem for couples. The first mention of barrenness was with Sarah, Abraham’s wife (Genesis 11:30). In their case, it was a situation God left unchanged until…

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Thank you for explaining topics like sex so clearly from the Bible

Question: I’m not completely sure who responds to “Questions,” but I would like to say thank you! I am a Catholic and I can’t say thank you enough. In my church sex and such is taboo. They never open up and talk to us so clearly like I found in La Vista Church of Christ’s…

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It is getting hard not to have sex. I want to marry my boyfriend, but I don’t want to give up my independence. Can we get married so we can have sex, but still live apart?

Question: Didn’t people get married during or soon after puberty in Biblical times? It seems like it would be a lot easier to abstain from premarital sex if people were getting married as teenagers. In our society, people usually get married in their mid to late 20s, 10 or more years after sexual maturity. People…

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Can a woman give birth to her firstborn and remain a virgin?

Question: We recently went into an argument with a group of girls and boys on the topic: “Can a woman deliver a child and remain a virgin?” We took our separate ways and decided to contact others who may have knowledge better than we do. Now here is our chance because we trust there are…

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