I don’t want to force him, but my boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me

Question: I’m right now in a situation in which my boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me. From the beginning of our relationship, I didn’t want to force him but I wanted this relationship to end up in a marriage. From a religious point of view and I’m from an area where marriage is important before…

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Will my future partner determine if I’ll make eternity?

Question: Good evening, sir. Please, I have a question that has been bothering my mind. Will my future partner determine if I’ll make eternity? Answer: Who you choose to marry can reveal your attitude toward righteousness. If you knowingly marry a sinner, then you are knowingly placing temptation before you. After all, Paul warned, “Do…

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Is it compulsory to marry and have children?

Question: Is it compulsory to marry? Is it compulsory to bear children? If you don’t bear children are you sinning against God and Genesis 1:28? Answer: “But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. … I think then that this is good in view…

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Is it a sin not to get married in a church?

Question: I am in my late twenties and my fiancee is a year younger than me. We live in an African country, and we have been engaged for several years now. We have been waiting for the approval of my fiancee’s parents. They don’t want the marriage because I am a pastor and I’m not…

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I’m worn out being a wife to my husband

Question: Good afternoon, I have been married for over ten years and have been abundantly blessed with children. These past years have been a nightmare. I cannot be married to him anymore. I just cannot do this anymore. He is a very angry man. He mismanages the finances, has made so many terrible decisions, and we are…

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Does impotency mean a person is not really married?

Question: I have been noticing that La Vista Church of Christ is one of the few congregations that tackle this sensitive issue. My question is in the case of the unconsummated marriage, does this indicate a de facto crisis within the marriage or is the marriage act incidental, solely the business of the husband and…

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Would you marry a couple who are committing fornication?

Question: My question is: If you end up counseling someone you are considering to perform their wedding and you find out they are currently living together, what do you do? I know you will discuss that with them from the Bible no doubt. But what do you do if they do not get that right…

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Is a wedding necessary since people don’t always keep their promise?

Question: Hello. I’m new to this website and I have an important question regarding premarital sex. My best friend and I love each other to the point where we like to show affection toward each other. We are 100% sure that we will stay together forever. I’m his first partner and so is he. However,…

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Are promises the same as marriage covenant?

Question: Dear minister, I have been feeling torn, confused, really unsure of what to do at times, I have prayed, trying to trust God to help. In the context of understanding marriage, I have searched about promises compared to covenants, including some answers on your site, and from other sources. Before I became a Christian…

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My wife doesn’t want to study the Bible

Question: Hello brother. I have a question that I would like to ask and I hope you are able to respond if you have a spare moment. I foolishly married a woman who “believes in God” and attending Sunday morning worship but that’s about it. She doesn’t think that she needs to read the Bible…

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I can’t marry my girlfriend because we are from the same clan

Question: Hi, I am from Uganda. I have lived with my girlfriend for 8 years, but it was only a few months back that I realized we belong to the same clan. I love my girlfriend because she has been there for me, but the problem is, I need a holy marriage. This last summer…

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Does marriage mean I lose my individuality?

Question: Does marriage mean I lose my Individuality since we will be one? Is it a sin if don’t share everything on my mind with my wife?  Does it mean no privacy for me? Please note that I’m not married yet. Answer: The concept of being one is found in a number of relationships in the…

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Am I not allowed to get married because I committed fornication?

Question: Sorry about this being a tough one. As a believer, I am in a really tough spot. I firmly believe the Bible teaches that sex is a biblical marriage. Although this is not what the church or mainstream media teaches. In Scripture, any time virgins had sex it was understood to be marriage. “He…

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Can a father prevent his daughter from marrying?

Question: Good evening Jeff. I have some questions that I need Bible facts to support, so I need your help. It is whether a man can prevent his daughter from getting married? If a girl’s father doesn’t agree to her marriage, can she still be scripturally married? Does I Corintians 7:37 mean that the above…

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Does past adultery prevent a person from getting married?

Question: Hello brother, I have been single for many years, and I have now found someone in the church I’m wanting to marry. But in my past, I was not very faithful to God in my daily living. In my past, I slept with someone who may have been married herself. I’m not totally for…

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Your teaching has been an encouragement to me

Question: I hope everything is well with you, and I hope God is protecting the Lavista Church of Christ! I’ve been encouraged a lot with the teachings about marriage, contraception, etc. I am thankful that God helps me a lot in spiritual growth. I hope to know more about God, His church, and His Word.…

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Should newlyweds live with his parents?

Question: Good evening, My boyfriend and I are both members of the Lord’s church and both very faithful. We have been courting a number of months and have talked bout the future of marriage. I am so nervous about marriage because it is such a big decision and neither of us believes in divorce. We…

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Can I marry my brother’s ex-girlfriend?

Question: Dear sir, I must commend you for the wonderful work you are doing in assisting people with important answers using the Bible. I have a girlfriend whom I love so much and I plan to marry. The problem I have is that she and my younger brother once dated and had oral sex before…

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What do we do? Our wedding was delayed

Question: I have a question about getting married. My fiancé and I have been engaged for two years now. We have finally gone down to the courthouse, have filled out an application, and have obtained our marriage license. We had an appointment with the Justice of the Peace today. I have sinned with her and…

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I learned a lot about marriage from your site

Question: Good day, I just want to thank God for such great revelations and teachings about marriage, I learned a lot from this site. May the good God you serve bless you. Answer: It is good to hear that the information was useful to you.

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What Is This Thing Called Love?

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/What-Is-this-Thing-Called-Love.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: Song of Solomon 8:6-7   I.         We use the word “love” freely today. Perhaps too freely.             A.        I love to have another piece of cake.             B.        Mama loves her baby.             C.        He fell in love with her at first sight.             D.        He loved her through fifty yeas of marriage.             E.        I love my country. II.        The…

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When is a marriage covenant broken?

Question: When is the marriage covenant broken? When a married person actually commits the sexual act outside of marriage or when his spouse divorces him? Answer: Covenants are vows that last for the lifetime of the parties entering into the covenant. “For the married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is…

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Should a husband have a say in what his wife wears?

Question: I read your response to someone asking about unmarried people touching and getting involved in foreplay. The response was very good, I think. Is there any real biblical evidence for women to cover their chests as the average guy does? Women seem to have less and less clothing on. It makes it difficult for…

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Was I married without my consent?

Question: I will like to first thank you for the work you do. I have a problem that is bothering me, and I would like to seek answers. I met a lady while in my second year at university. We dated for a while, but we had many challenges as we disagree on a lot…

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Does God allow common-law marriages?

Question: Hello, I am a newborn Christian, baptized into Christ two years ago. I would like to ask: because fornication is a big deal for God, at what point is it considered marriage in the Bible? Forgive me please if I’m wrong, but it seems the Bible does not talk about standing before the preacher…

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Abigail’s Shadow

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/2019Fall5Abigails-Shadow.mp3 by Andy Cantrell Finding Our Purpose from the Past

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Why can’t I change my husband?

Question: I have been a single mom since the day my son was born. Even when I was married, I still felt like I was a single mom. Since then my life changed completed and took a different turn around. My main focus was on the church, my job, my school, and my son. I…

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Does God have a say in whom we choose as a spouse?

Question: I have a question concerning finding a wife (or husband for the woman). Does God have any say in whom we choose as our wife? Does God help us in any way such as leading us to a particular woman as if it was destined? Or does God bring us to a particular woman…

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All we have in common is our love for God. Is that enough to get married?

Question: Hello there, I’m in a serious relationship. It took me a while to come to terms with it because we were friends initially. My boyfriend is an awesome guy, he loves and serves God and is caring to people around. He’s passionate about work, his students, family, church, etc.. I could go on. He’s…

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How did Adam find Eve?

Question: I hope you can answer these for me: When Adam worked in the Garden, did he have to work and show he was worthy Eve for God to present her to him? I understand the help meet part, but did God make Adam for Eve or Eve for Adam? I know it was a…

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If I had sex with someone, does that mean we can’t get married?

Question: I am a born-again Christian with a history of having multiple sexual partners (main chick and side-chicks). I got saved and gave my life to Christ, though I still could not control my sexual desires; hence, I continued to practice fornication. I repented and changed but ended up having sex with one lady from…

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I have to wait until I get out of debt to get married

Question: Dear Minister, I have to wait four or five years before I can marry because of a strict financial government program to help me get out of debt. I have been engaged for a year now, and I have had intercourse since the day my fiance and I met. We are both Christians, but our…

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Could a husband demand sex too often?

Question: A woman has come to my wife asking if certain aspects of her marriage are normal. She was born and raised in the church. Her husband joined about five years ago. He has been using I Corinthians 7:3-5 to force her to have sex every night, regardless of how she feels. She has no…

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How to deal with an alcoholic husband?

Question: Good morning and God bless you and this ministry. My wife and I have a wonderful sister in Christ who has been married to her husband for over 40 years.  Her first husband left her when their son was born because the child was born with autism. Our friend was abandoned at a young…

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