Should past sexual sins be discussed before marriage?

Question: Hello, I’m a 30-year-old female Christian. My boyfriend is a few years older and a Christian as well. We have been together for several months. He is a wonderful man. However, he has a sexual past that he refuses to discuss. He says that it has no benefit and will cause jealousy and insecurity…

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How can a girl and boy be pure again after committing fornication?

Question: It really amazed me to cross your path this afternoon. I’m a 24-year-old youth who has been seeking the correct answer about how can boyfriend and girlfriend be clean and pure again before God after they have committed fornication. I am in a similar situation for a long time now, just as how this…

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How do I keep my virginity without him cheating on me?

Question: Good evening, I am a new member. Please, I am 20 years old and a virgin. I have a fiance who promised to marry me, He is always asking me to come to his place. Is it advisable? Answer: When I teach young people about sexual matters, I give extra emphasis to the young…

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Would God bless our marriage after living together?

Question: Hello! Thank you for answering so many important questions. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, and we weren’t Christians when we started dating. In the last few months, our faith has shifted and we are trying to clean our lives up. We are not married, but we are living together…

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I love her, but she remains with her boyfriend

Question: Good day, I joined a church for close to a year now. There’s this particular lady in the church I like and wished to get closer to her to know if she’s free and available for marriage. Eventually, we got talking and it was as if she also had been waiting for me. She…

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How do we save our relationship without having sex until marriage?

Question: Hello there! I recently came across your article about couples that have committed sexual sins before marriage and how they still worked out and still have room for hope. My loved one and I are wanting to get married. We plan on getting married but with going to college, getting out of our debts,…

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How do I return to God after committing fornication?

Question: Good morning, Thanks for all you do for singles all over the world — taking questions and giving wisdom-filled answers. God will keep blessing you. I have a huge problem. I’m a leader in my local assembly, and I’ve been engaging in the sin of fornication with my wife-to-be and most recently with a…

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Jamaica Patois Wisdom – Virtue

by Jefferson David Tant The Jamaican Patois dialect is colorful, unique, and humorous. It is my desire to share some of the philosophy shown in this mix of colorful phrases that are witty as well as thought-provoking. I hope the readers both profit and enjoy. In my quarter-century plus of teaching there, I have come…

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I’m addicted to prostitutes

Question: I am addicted to prostitutes. I want to get out. I have tried but I still sin. I want to give my life to Christ. Answer: People claim to have an addiction to give the impression that they have little choice. No one starts life as an addict, whether we are talking about drugs…

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Is it wrong to marry a non-virgin woman?

Question: My girlfriend is in her mid-twenties. She has a very good heart and she is very beautiful both inside and out. She lost her mother at the age of 8 and was brought up by her grandparents. She had two previous affairs before me. Both of the affairs ended with her being the innocent…

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Should I end my relationship after having sex?

Question: Hello, I am a girl in my thirties who had held on to my beliefs and Christian values. I had a boyfriend who was so into sex. But I told him to relax so we can know each other very well. But to my surprise we had sex, and I don’t know how to…

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I keep failing and having sex after my baptism

Question: Hello, I’m seeking guidance. I’ve had sex with my partner six times now after being baptized. When I first met her I was really focusing on God and was still doing whatever I wanted. I had recently come back from Marine Corps training. I know all the bad things I did when I wasn’t…

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Did I sin by getting baptized again?

Question: Hello, I hope you are well and having a blessed day. I am writing you because I have been greatly troubled. I’ve prayed about it, and I’ve tried to get past the things I’ve done. To backtrack a little bit, I was first baptized into the church when I was thirteen. I remember sitting…

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My husband doesn’t know, but I committed fornication before we were married

Question: I found your website, and I’ve been reading it a lot. I’m overwhelmed with grief and shame. I’ve been married for over 10 years. I love my husband and children dearly. Before we were married I committed fornication. He doesn’t know and assumed I was a virgin. We never spoke about it. I’ve repented of my…

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How do I stop committing fornication?

Question: Good evening, I’m in my thirties. I have been in a relationship for a number of years, Prior to my current relationship, I had two other sexual partners. I am currently sexually active with my current partner, though we are not married.  My relationship with the Lord has been on and off. I have…

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Should I see a prostitute?

Question: I am 37. I live in a shared house where we can’t have a partner. I live on a low pension fund and my social worker has suggested seeing a sex worker so I can experience it at least once. Being a Christian, I have mixed feelings as I know I won’t have a…

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Should I tell my girlfriend that I cheated on her?

Question: I and my girlfriend have been in a distant relationship for over two years. We’ve decided to marry after her graduation. I never had any intention of cheating on her before. But recently I had to be with a girl for academic purposes. I spent hours in her home doing our projects. We became…

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Cohabiting Before Marriage

by Floyd Chappelear Sentry Magazine, June 2001 It has long been observed that marriages that are preceded by “living together” have a markedly higher divorce rate than those that are characterized by abstinence before marriage. One of the reasons that I have advanced is due to the fact that the two are not really one…

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Why Is Sex Outside of Marriage Wrong?

by Perry Hall “I’ve been told sex outside of marriage is wrong. Why?” That is a question I got asked recently. “God said so” is one answer, but not as meaningful as others. Why did God say so? Is there a “why” behind the “what”? Surprisingly, two answers are different for believers than for unbelievers.…

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Despite my repeated baptisms, I’m still committing fornication

Question: I went through a rough childhood. I was molested and all that. I was baptized one Sunday in a church when I was 11 because the pastor said that’s the only way I could take part. But afterward, she said my sibling and I are holding the church back, so we stop going to…

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Would you marry a couple who are committing fornication?

Question: My question is: If you end up counseling someone you are considering to perform their wedding and you find out they are currently living together, what do you do? I know you will discuss that with them from the Bible no doubt. But what do you do if they do not get that right…

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How do I straighten myself out?

Question: Hi, I came across this website and saw how some issues about relationships have been addressed. I was actually having a headache presently about a matter, and that’s why I looking online. I hoped there would be someone I can share it with, and get the right advice. I came across my girlfriend (who…

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How can we be forgiven of our fornication?

Question: Hello minister Hamilton, I reached out to you a few years back when I had questions and I wanted to get baptized into Christ and follow God. Well, these past two years I have been living with my girlfriend and we just found out we are expecting a child in May. We are both…

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Is cheating while dating known as adultery?

Question: Is cheating while dating (as in having a boyfriend or girlfriend) known as adultery? Answer: Having sex with someone you are not married to is called “fornication.” See Notes on Sex for more information. Adultery is a type of fornication where one or both people are married, but not to each other. Dating carries no formal…

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Is a wedding necessary since people don’t always keep their promise?

Question: Hello. I’m new to this website and I have an important question regarding premarital sex. My best friend and I love each other to the point where we like to show affection toward each other. We are 100% sure that we will stay together forever. I’m his first partner and so is he. However,…

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Excellent article on why premarital sex is wrong

Question: Re: Why Sex Outside of Marriage Is Wrong Excellent, excellent, excellent article! I was feeling a little doubtful, (doubting Thomas mode), about why God had said, “No,” to premarital sex. I’d like to thank you for such a dead-on and solidly-backed explanation as to why it is wrong. Not only were you throwing out references…

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I stopped attending church because I committed sexual sins

Question: Please, I am a baptized Christian who is a member of a denomination. I am in need of your advice. I am 26 years of age. I have engaged in sinful sex with a cousin on several occasions, for which I felt ashamed after the acts. I stopped going for the Lord’s Supper and…

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What do I do about a leading member living with a woman?

Question: What should an individual member do when faced with a leading member, teacher, and song leader is living together with a woman of the church. It seems that the entire church is trying to ignore it. I talked to the preacher and he gave a lengthy explanation, saying the member is impotent and that…

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I can’t marry my girlfriend because we are from the same clan

Question: Hi, I am from Uganda. I have lived with my girlfriend for 8 years, but it was only a few months back that I realized we belong to the same clan. I love my girlfriend because she has been there for me, but the problem is, I need a holy marriage. This last summer…

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Am I not allowed to get married because I committed fornication?

Question: Sorry about this being a tough one. As a believer, I am in a really tough spot. I firmly believe the Bible teaches that sex is a biblical marriage. Although this is not what the church or mainstream media teaches. In Scripture, any time virgins had sex it was understood to be marriage. “He…

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Do I tell my boyfriend that I cheated on him?

Question: Hi, I love your articles and I am facing a problem now. Just some background about me. I am a Christian who has backslid for almost 10 years. I have a 4 years long boyfriend with me. But just last year, me being dumb and naive, a guy friend told me that I would…

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Why is the guy I committed fornication with marrying someone else?

Question: Dear Beloved, Several years ago, a Christian guy from my church approached me about his interest and desire to become my life partner. Initially, I refused due to certain situations and explained the consequences we both would be facing. I was firm in my refusal, but he repeatedly requested while affirming to face any…

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How do I clean up my life before Jesus returns?

Question: Hello. I was hoping to receive some help and answers. With the shape the world is in, I can’t help but foresee Jesus coming soon. Frankly, I just read Matthew 24:1-31 and can’t help but feel fear. I struggle with a lot of things that I can’t seem to break. How do I turn…

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How do I keep my family from dividing over my choice of a girlfriend?

Question: Good evening sir, I need advice. I’m dating my brother’s ex-girlfriend. They dated for almost five years. It ended when my brother got another girl pregnant and he eventually ended up marrying the other girl. Five years after the breakup, I developed feelings for her, and when I told her, she told me that…

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