I need some advice on my position with Christ

Question: I have some questions about marriage and my position in Christ that I would like you to help me with. I was married, I believe. Although it was a Christian marriage, it was like we came together and stayed. It has been three years so far in this kind of marriage. As a couple,…

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Can I get baptized while being in a relationship?

Question: I’m a 21-year-old male. My Father is a pastor. I’m in a relationship with my sister-in-law. Now I wanted to take baptism, but I have concerns. Do we need to break our relationship in order to get baptized? She is a very good girl, and I preached the gospel to her and made her…

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Did my marriage end for the right reason?

Question: Good afternoon! I recently became aware of your ministry and have been reading your articles. I immediately loved the tone and the thoroughness of the answers to questions that people asked! I have one for you that has concerned me! I am in my fifties. I accepted Christ as my Savior decades ago. I…

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Illogical Fixes to Problems

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Illogical-Fixes-to-Problems.mp3 by Jeffrey W. Hamilton Text: I Samuel 8:1-8   I.         For over 400 years, God ruled over the land of Israel.             A.        When the people became wicked, God sent in an enemy nation to conquer a portion of the land.             B.        When the people turned backed to God, he raised up a judge to lead the people…

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What if my husband dates while we are legally separated?

Question: My husband and I separated three years ago but are legally married. If he decides to date other people is that adultery in God’s eyes? Answer: In biblical days, the idea of a legal separation did not exist. Legal separations are essentially trial divorces. The hope was that by providing some space between the…

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Why Did the Adulterers and Homosexuals at Corinth Change?

by Terry Wane Benton Paul mentions a list of sins which included thieves, drunkards, adulterers, and homosexuals (I Corinthians 6:8-10) and said, “such were some of you”. They were washed from such sins, justified, and sanctified. What was the motivation that moved them to change? They did not argue that they were born this way…

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Sex, Preachers, and the Church

“The Bible does not hide from or obscure the power of the temptation to illicit sex. In language that is refreshingly clear and direct without itself indulging in titillation, the text warns the reader of the debacle that awaits him should he succumb in this area and at the same time promises profound sexual joy…

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Am I able to remarry?

Question: Hi, I came across your church page while looking for an answer to a difficult question. I have found many different answers but as a member of the Church of Christ, I wanted to try to get a response that aligned with my religious beliefs. I read through quite a bit of the Q&A…

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How should the adultery of a minister be handled?

Question: My Dear Brother, I would like to express my deep grief because of what’s happening in our local congregation. I am in desperate need of guidance as my heart is so much troubled. We found out that our minister of many years has been hiding a horrible sin of adultery where a child has been…

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I committed fornication. Will our marriage be pure?

Question: Please help me. I have committed fornication with my boyfriend. We want to get married. Will our marriage still be pure? The boyfriend I committed fornication with is a married man. We both love God and don’t want to depart from His ways, yet we have sinned. Currently, I am pregnant. He wants to…

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Would I be able to remarry?

Question: Your website is wonderful and I am learning a lot! I have seen similar questions but not quite the same. I’m not sure if I was a believer at the time of my marriage or afterward. I grew up in the church and knew who God was but I did not have the Holy…

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Am I wrong for moving on while waiting for the divorce to happen?

Question: Good evening, Several years ago, my wife left me for another man. She now has a child with this man and has been living with him since then. I waited over a year, trying to reconcile with her, but my attempts failed. I have moved on and have every intention of marrying the woman…

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When Your Mate Has Fallen

by Jefferson David Tant An unfaithful spouse is not a new phenomenon in our generation. We can trace it as far back as David and Bathsheba in the Old Testament. But it is dealt with even before that, as the Law God gave to Israel had specific provisions concerning this sin. No other problem is…

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Am I being used by this man?

Question: I really have a feeling what all your answers are going to be. I just need to know if there is any hope for the relationship I am in. We met at work and I ended up having to spend part of the day being his monitor. So we really got to spend some…

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Did I sin by getting baptized again?

Question: Hello, I hope you are well and having a blessed day. I am writing you because I have been greatly troubled. I’ve prayed about it, and I’ve tried to get past the things I’ve done. To backtrack a little bit, I was first baptized into the church when I was thirteen. I remember sitting…

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Do I let go of my failing marriage?

Question: I’m sorry this is a bit long. My husband has cheated on me several times in our marriage. Each time, he would convince me he would change, and he would for a few years, but then it would happen again and again. I would take him back and just pray and hope he wouldn’t…

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Why can a broken vow to God be forgiven but remarriage remains adultery?

Question: If God can forgive someone who breaks a vow to Him, although we know that vows should never be made, then why is remarriage possibly considered adultery when they’re breaking a vow of marriage? What is the difference between a vow to God and a vow made for marriage? Answer: All sins that are…

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Is cheating while dating known as adultery?

Question: Is cheating while dating (as in having a boyfriend or girlfriend) known as adultery? Answer: Having sex with someone you are not married to is called “fornication.” See Notes on Sex for more information. Adultery is a type of fornication where one or both people are married, but not to each other. Dating carries no formal…

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Did my fiance have a right to divorce his first wife?

Question: Hello! I really appreciate your question and answer site. I use it regularly when studying a specific subject. I have a question, and I believe I already know the answer, but I wondered what your response to my question would be. So here it goes … I divorced a few years back due to…

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Can I still marry my girlfriend after my dad slept with her?

Question: I want to know if I can get married to my girlfriend. My dad slept with her. Is it possible for both of us to still marry? Answer: The Law of Moses, which does not apply today, stated a son could not behave sexually with his father’s wife (Leviticus 18:7) nor could a father…

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How is it good when your wife commits adultery?

Question: Romans 8:28 says everything works for good. If you were in a marriage relationship, where you did everything you possibly could for your spouse, where you sacrificed a lot for them, then they cheated on you with the possibility of leaving you with some STIs, How is that good? How does it work for…

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Should I marry a woman who had a habit of dating married men?

Question: Is it OK to marry a lady who has a past of dating married men? The majority of the men she has dated were married men. It also bothers me that she keeps her past a secret. Answer: I don’t know what kind of things you think she is keeping secret from you. Should…

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Does past adultery prevent a person from getting married?

Question: Hello brother, I have been single for many years, and I have now found someone in the church I’m wanting to marry. But in my past, I was not very faithful to God in my daily living. In my past, I slept with someone who may have been married herself. I’m not totally for…

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If an elder commits adultery, does that disqualify him?

Question: Hi brother, Regarding the article Does divorce disqualify a man from being an elder? If an elder commits adultery, does this disqualify him? It appears, after considering the tenor of the whole of Scripture, that he needs to resign. His opinion is meaningless now. Based on the issue in total, he needs to be…

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I accidentally fell in love with a married man

Question: Hello, I just want to ask for some advice because I am struggling right now. I am a woman who is single. And I met a married man. We accidentally fell in love with each other. I tried everything to avoid him because I know he is married. But even as hard as I…

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The Adulterous Woman

https://www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/cms/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/AdulterousWoman.mp3 Text: John 8:2-11   I.         People rarely want their sins pointed out.             A.        It should be understandable. We want to think well of ourselves and have others think well of us also.             B.        The common response to rebuke is to attack the messenger – Proverbs 15:32             C.        You’ll hear people inappropriately quote, “Judge not …” – Matthew 7:1…

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I want to marry this woman, but I don’t know if it is right

Question: I met a beautiful amazing woman, and I want to marry her and start a family with her. She is a Christian, and we make a great team. However, there are some hesitations on my part. She had sex when she was younger to an unbeliever, but she didn’t marry him. She left him.…

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When is a marriage covenant broken?

Question: When is the marriage covenant broken? When a married person actually commits the sexual act outside of marriage or when his spouse divorces him? Answer: Covenants are vows that last for the lifetime of the parties entering into the covenant. “For the married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is…

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Why do I feel guilty about dating after my divorce?

Question: My ex-husband and I cheated on each other during the time we were married. Looking back I can see that we were lukewarm Christian. I cheated on him at the last because he came home and told me he loved this other girl and everything and he cheated on me a lot and I…

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My husband committed adultery and had a child. What do I do?

Question: Good Day, Please, can you help me? My husband had an affair and a child was conceived. He first lied to me, saying it was a one night standing due to issues he had with his mother. But that was a lie. He was in a full relationship with the lady. He has asked…

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Are all remarried people adulterers?

Question: In the New Testament, we can make this general observation: When porneia is use independently, it refers to all immoral sexual acts. When it is used in a list with moicheia (the Greek word for “adultery”), it takes on a narrower definition of immoral sexual acts before marriage and moicheia refers to immoral sexual…

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Did Bathsheba tempt David?

Question: Just a quick question, I’m curious as to what your thoughts are. Do you believe that Bathsheba had some scheme in mind or was just as guilty as David was by bathing where she could be seen? After all, she was on her own property and perhaps, did not realize that someone would be watching…

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I feel I will commit adultery if I divorce my husband

Question: I grew up in the church and was baptized. I got married and my husband was baptized as well after we were married a couple of years later. My husband left me, well abandoned me, and does not go to the church anymore. I have been studying Scriptures. I want to file for divorce,…

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Can my daughter be forgiven of her adultery?

Question: My daughter went abroad to seek for better income for her family. She left her husband and children with me. But as the years went by, she revealed that she is living with another man, and they already have a child. Her kids never knew about the situation, but her husband did. He tried…

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