Question:

I believe in God, but my parents don't. They don't want me to be a Christian, but I do. I don't know what to do. Please help.


Answer:

It is a tough situation when a young teen realizes the truth, but his parents reject it. Most countries have laws that state that parents can decide what is in the best interests of their children. It isn't until a child gets older -- at the age of majority (when the government says you are an adult) or close to it -- that the child can insist on his own choices in regards to religion.

I've know several teenagers in situations similar to yours. How they handled it has varied.

  • One young man that I knew decided that he was going to be a true Christian. His mother opposed it, but he insisted, even snuck out to the house to attend church services and got baptized. His mother got so mad that she kicked him out of the house at the age of 14. He went and lived with his best friend's family who were also Christians. He was one of the strongest Christians I've known.
  • One young man snuck out of his house to meet with a preacher. He eventually was baptized and attended services once in a while, but his father put his foot down and literally moved where there was no nearby church. The young man had to wait until he became older, but sadly he lost his faith before then.
  • Another young man eventually talked his parents into letting him go to church services. His parents weren't so much against Christianity, but couldn't understand why he didn't want to accept their brand of religion. They have visited the church with him. While they don't go and once in a while try to talk him out of going, they have not outright stopped him.
  • Another young man studies with me as often as he can, once a week -- usually when his mother is not home because she objects to him thinking about another religion. He is waiting until he is able to drive on his own to attend church services.

In some ways I understand where the parents are coming from. There are a tremendous number of creeps on the Internet. Parents don't want their children talking to strangers or having people they don't know influencing their children. From a safety point of view, they are right. But it still cuts off people interest in becoming better people from the teachings that will improve them.

Thus, I can't tell you what to do. If you want study Christianity with me, I will be happy to do so. If you want to find a church near you, I'll try to locate one for you to contact.