Question:

Is rough sex a bad thing? If so, why?


Answer:

Much is going to depend on how rough you think rough is. There have been numerous trials where someone was badly injured or even killed and the defendant claimed "We were just having rough sex. She liked it that way." The flaw in that reasoning is "Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law" (Romans 13:10). Sex is supposed to be an expression of love between a husband and wife. Hurting one another is not love, it is one person trying to dominate the other physically. That is not love. Hurting someone for sexual pleasure is not kind to the other person and it is inappropriate behavior. Yet Paul stated, "Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; ..." (I Corinthians 13:4-5). So, yes, rough sex can be a bad thing.